Divorce is typically hardest on the children. Even very young children are affected by their parent’s split. Older children can deeply resent having to leave their familiar homes and neighborhoods when they have to spend time with their other parent.
One type of custody arrangement that can circumvent that negativity for the kids is bird’s nest parenting. Here, instead of the kids traipsing between their parents’ homes on days when they must go to their other parent’s home, the parents are the ones who move in and out of the former family home.
Why it could work for your family
If you and your co-parent already share a good relationship with one another and are mindful of respecting each other’s boundaries, this could be a workable solution, at least for now. It provides your children with the stability they need during the transition. It also allows the parents to postpone putting the home on the market if they prefer to wait.
When it could backfire
No court will ever order this type or custody; it must be voluntarily stipulated by the parties. There are downsides, such as if one parent becomes seriously involved with another partner. It can also be expensive because the co-parents are footing the bill for three households instead of two. One way to cut costs is to agree to share an apartment or house where you reside when not with the kids in the family home.
If both of you are willing, approach your Wexford family law attorney and ask that they recommend this type of custody agreement to the court.